tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2918196824527953004.post8926911239549006953..comments2022-12-21T04:18:30.385+00:00Comments on Being Bisexual: Talking about being bisexual with my parents - advice please!Georginahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04249837718702941385noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2918196824527953004.post-30462452368591993272013-09-09T23:22:11.843+01:002013-09-09T23:22:11.843+01:00Being bi isn't just your “sexuality”. OK, let&...Being bi isn't just your “sexuality”. OK, let's remove sex completely — being bi isn't just about romance either. It's about your *identity*.<br /><br />It's got nothing to do with your (or other people's) underpants-regions, or any embarrassingly sweet love letters you may or may not have sent or received. This is who you are.<br /><br />It's just as much use trying to pretend you're not vegetarian or Christian or a Trekkie or teetotal or a [your-favourite-football-club-here] supporter.<br /><br />(Also, what Jen says. Jen is clever. Listen to Jen.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2918196824527953004.post-80107640827702769052013-08-07T01:11:09.370+01:002013-08-07T01:11:09.370+01:00"even when I get a girlfriend, there's no...<i>"even when I get a girlfriend, there's no need to specify, because one's sexuality is a private thing"</i><br /><br />Oh for pity's sake. We're all set to have the first legal same-sex marriages in Wales & England. Are your extended family going to be invited to a wedding where the gender of your spouse is revealed with a big shout of "SURPRISE! She's marrying a GURL!"?<br /><br />Some people will just learn anyway from internet profiles. If you're on Facebook and have clicked Like on BCN, BiCon and B Is Not For Invisi-Bi-Lity, sooner or later family members on facebook will notice, and it'll happen at random and with no idea which of them have clocked you. Dearly though he might want to block the information by making it some kind of family secret, the world just doesn't work that way any more.<br /><br />I get it being awkward for him. "Our EsmeT is bisexual you know" is a bit out of the usual circle of conversation perhaps, but doing BiStuff like going to BiCon or speaking at a Bi Visibility Day event or suchlike can give that a bit of a blunted edge. <br /><br />The same goes for you in coming out to people too, as I've probably burbled before. I am a bit fond of talking about bi spaces as ways of coming out in a less confrontational way.<br /><br />So yeah. Grrr. But it's how the world works in his head, you're probably stuck with it: it's a question of how far you'll go in deliberately or inadvertently circumventing him and so letting the wider family know by other means...Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11050857281962904047noreply@blogger.com